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What I Learned After Revisiting My Teenage Self

What I Learned After Revisiting My Teenage Self

It’s no secret that I am putting together a collection of prose and journal entries I have written over the years. I’ve always wanted to publish a collection of my most personal writing, but the process has been a slow-moving one for sure. This is mostly because revisiting my old journal entries can be emotionally exhausting. I can only go back and read through them for so long without feeling overwhelmed and sentimental, heartbroken and nostalgic. However, revisiting my teenage self has made me realize many things about the person I was before—and the person I’ve always been.

“Where shall we escape to today?”

While most teenagers my age turned to their friends for support, I resorted to finding comfort in fictional characters. Reality was always something that was either overwhelming, disappointing, or unsatisfying, and I often used escapism to cope.

When I was younger, this meant turning to anime. Despite its dark themes, Rurouni Kenshin was my comfort show of choice. It’s an anime about a legendary former assassin who sets out on a journey to repent for his past. It is a violent, moody anime, peppered with comic relief and damaged men. I fell for the fighter-for-hire, Sanosuke, who got into fistfights for fun, and I swooned over the dangerous ninja and Oniwabanshu leader, Aoshi. Teenage me loved to sympathize with these damaged characters, especially if sifting through all their flaws and frowns meant eventually being blessed with a smile.

In my late teens, I also turned to NANA, a manga about two 20-year-old women with the same name and opposite personalities. They share an apartment, confide in each other about their relationships, and grow close. It’s a story that explores the perils of love, sex, and rock & roll—and about how chasing your dreams often means making sacrifices along the way. I love(d) it for its poetic narrative, the unique artwork, and the men. Oh, to have a Yasu or a Nobu in my life! Adult me is still looking for them!

Teenage me wrote a whole novel about a boy I wished I had. He was the culmination of all the boys and men I admired—and there were plenty. I escaped into this story similar to how I escaped into anime. This time, however, I was the author, and anything could happen. Who would I be? And what would life be like if that were me?

Sometimes, some things don’t change.

Looking back, it’s become painfully clear to me that my teenage self loved to write about boys. I put so much of my time, attention, and energy into boys. It’s probably why I related so much to To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before and really felt for Lara Jean. I was boy crazy in the same way—just completely and utterly enamored, awestruck by their eyes and arms, quietly and shyly admiring them from afar. I made up pretend scenarios in my head—which I often used to fall asleep at night—and imagined them in an overwhelmingly perfect way despite all their flaws.

It wasn’t until I was older that I became aware of how much of an illusion it all was.

Reading back on my journal entries from my younger self made me realize how many things about me haven’t changed—particularly in the way I fall in love. I have always been a sensitive, romantic person who idolized the ideas of people over the reality of them. As a person who turned to fictional worlds for comfort, it made sense! What’s real and in front of me isn’t quite right! Let me imagine you the way I want you to be, and ignore all the bad things!

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Now 30, I’ve come to realize these traits about myself and have worked to avoid them. It isn’t easy; I still find myself getting attached to the ideas of people instead of who they really are. I’m a dreamy Pisces; it’s in my nature to lean on fantasy, to swim in the make-believe, to love somebody anyway. Kenshin Himura killed how many people before he ended up in Tokyo? That’s okay—he’s so sincere now! He’s got a cool scar! He means well! It’s fine!

I love that teenage me had such a big heart, big enough to house everyone else’s pain and demons, even my own—a heart that swelled so wide it hurt at night just thinking of everyone. A heart so big I couldn’t keep it all inside—I had to write everything down so I wouldn’t forget, so everyone could last forever the way they were in my head.


Have you ever revisited your old journal entries? What have you learned about yourself back then, and now? I’d love to know!

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    • Oh, I know the feeling! A lot of my entries are a bit embarrassing and sad, too. It’s great to be reminded of the person you were before, to see how you’ve grown and changed, and what you learned along the way. Hang in there. Xo

  • Oh I loved reading this Megan.

    I disposed of my teenage journals some years ago and I’m always torn about that decision. However, even reflecting on journals from last year or earlier in 2021, I’ve noticed I’m just a romantic at heart. I wrote endlessly about boys, men, the feeling of being in love or wanting to understand if THIS was love. And, in many ways, I even romanticised the mundane parts of my life. Noting down little things from my everyday or my job, and making it sound glorious in hindsight. But there’s always the more raw crevices in between.

    PS. I would LOVE to see your work, published, someday friend!

    • You and I are built the same way! Total romantics, love being in love — it’s really a LOT, looking back, how important being in love was and still is to me. It’s tough, in this day and age, but we still keep looking, still connecting, keep documenting, because it’s who we are. Xo

  • I wish I had kept all my journals from elementary and high school. I used to write in them ALL THE TIME. I would have loved to have had the chance to dig them out again and reread them. I probably would have been super-embarrassed by all the things I’d written, but that’s all part of the fun, isn’t it?

  • This post may be one of my favorites of yours. I related and still relate to this so much. Maybe too much? Sometimes to this day, I still don’t know if I like the person I’m talking to, or I like the idea of the person. I get attached way too easily. Looking back at my life, I actually used to have a hard time trusting and allowing myself to get attached to guys, but somewhere along the way that changed? Great post xx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

    • Thank you for the kind words, Melina! That really means a lot. I’m glad you can relate — even if, at times, it can be a hard thing to work through. At least we’re aware of it — some people aren’t! Haha I think being dreamy is a great quality, it just takes a little more effort to protect ourselves. Thanks for reading and taking the time to respond. xx

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