Hopes and Goals for 2021

I know I’m not alone in saying that 2020 was one of the most challenging years of my life. Like many others, I temporally lost my job in March and was unemployed for three months. I was constantly stressed about the state of the world. And while some of my relationships strengthened, others suffered. Change was swift; it yanked me down into such a low mental state that I took several social media breaks, refused to watch the news after Joe Biden (thank god!) was elected President, and tried my best to relocate solace.

While there is no clear end of Covid-19 in sight, at least a vaccine is becoming widely available, and things will slowly start looking up. It will no doubt still be a long stretch of winter.

However, I believe someday, when 2020 is just an old, nightmarish memory, we will realize how much stronger and wiser we’ve become—even after the disgusting events that happened yesterday at the Capitol. After all, sometimes we have to go through dark times to learn the greatest lessons.

Looking ahead.

My hopes and goals for 2021 are simple: I want to build a better home within myself. After living with myself for almost 30 years, it’s obvious I still have a lot of work to do. When the world tries to take everything else away from you, you’re the only thing you have left. You might as well make yourself a cozy, safe place to live. Thanks to the help of many, many mental health and self-care apps, literature, and online support groups, I’ve slowly been working towards just that.

I’ll also be turning 30 in March. I’ve been looking forward to turning 30 for a few years now. My 20s—especially towards the end—weren’t my shiniest moments. My life went through many changes in a short period of time. It was tough, but I know I’m so much stronger and better now because of it all.

Now, I’m looking forward to the next decade of my life, which will hopefully be filled with more self-awareness, love, and understanding than ever before.

My hopes and goals for 2021.

While there are quite a few goals I have this year, here are only a few that may be relatable to you lovely readers:

  • Finesse my new writing “system” (more on this next week). At last, I think I found a strategy that works best for my productivity. It has been years in the making, with a lot of trial and error.
  • Write regularly. Over the last three years, I’ve just been writing in bits and spurts, only when I felt inspired. I’d like to write more regularly, even when I’m not inspired, merely to keep up a routine, so I don’t fall into a writing drought like I did in 2019. I’m not giving myself daily word count goals. I just want to bring the effortless, no-pressure act of writing creatively back into my everyday routine, in whatever form it comes.
  • Read more books. I’ll admit: I completely traded video games and TV for books in 2020 and only read three or four books last year. This year, I’d love to make more time for reading again and spend less time watching television.
  • Share more of my journaling experience with you all. My most popular essays on Medium have “journaling” in the headline, so I know it’s a topic most of you are passionate about. I’d love to create more content related to this topic since it resonates with so many of you.
  • Take it each day, or week, at a time. This also means trying to stay in the present much more. I’m constantly stressed about the future, and last year, all the worrying was exhausting. I thought we’d be back to work by May, then June, then September. And I still haven’t seen my office since last March! This year, I’m going to try my best to be more grounded not overthink things I cannot control. I don’t know exactly how I’m going to do this, but I have a lot of reading, research, and mantras ahead of me.

What are your hopes and goals for 2021?


  1. “I want to build a better home within myself” – You couldn’t have said it any better! I think 2020 taught a lot of us a hard lesson on how much work we all still have to do in terms of feeling at peace with ourselves. I think with you and I being fairly introverted, it’s easy to be alone and spend time with ourselves, doing things we love. But I definitely learned that just because you are introverted and can be alone, doesn’t necessarily imply that you feel peace within yourself. It’s not just about alone-time, but about the way you talk to yourself, your level of reactiveness, how well you cope with uncomfortable situations and things that are outside of your control.

    I love your goals for 2021 and mine look pretty similar (especially being present which I clearly have a tendency to fall short at given the levels my anxiety can reach!). But I think as hard as 2020 was, you handled it all so well with a self-awareness that not many people can say they have. I’m excited to see what this year has in store, but whatever is to come, I know you’re going to get through it because you are one of the strongest women I know!

    1. “But I definitely learned that just because you are introverted and can be alone, doesn’t necessarily imply that you feel peace within yourself.”

      Exactly! Especially the whole month of December–it’s been rough! We’ve talked a lot about this though and I think we can both agree that this kind of growth is necessary. It’s been so challenging but I know it’s all making me a better person in the long run. At the end of the day, I know I’m grateful that I can have space all to myself where I can THINK and do whatever I want, when I want, without asking others’ permission. At least for now, that’s something to be thankful for. I’m learning to be much kinder to myself than I’ve ever been before, and I need to really be OK with being myself BY Myself and not relying on others to make me happy. It’s so necessary to get there and each day I get closer.

      Thank you for the kind words, as always. You are one of the strongest women I know too and it’s great to have you in my corner. XO I’m in yours, too.

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